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They seem to be the quotes of the year. I hear so many people say them. They are like the verbiage when a silence might have been more thoughtful, when a somatic relationship might have lent to truthfulness, and when emotional bypassing grabs the baton and runs without anyone stopping it.

But for my body, it has an interesting reaction to it. It recoils. It feels startled. It’s like living in a family with a pink elephant in the living room and no one claims it exists yet you’re staring at it. It’s like watching my life through my memories, and someone flat out says, “How could that ever happen? It just didn’t”.

One phrase is ‘Get over it!’
This can be extended to say:
Get over knowing the real truth.  (It’s disruptive to the societal dialogue.)
Get over healing. (It’s taking too long.)
Get over grieving. (It brings up too much for others…depressing to be around.)
Get over feeling. (Stay on a straight line and pretend to be positive.)
Get over setting boundaries. (Go with the flow. Loosen up. You’re too sensitive.)
Get over working to make a difference. (Because the world isn’t worth it in all that is happening.)
Get over researching what is really happening. (You’re just a conspiracy theorist wasting time with fake news.)

Get over it…get over it…and get over it all!
What a convenient way to dismiss and negate what is important in a person’s experience that helps them to grow, feel passionate, connects the dots and patterns, and stops the cycles of victimization. Ever happen to you? Do you say this to others or been on the receiving end?

But no one seems to say:
‘Get over staring at your text messages’. (At least I’ve never heard that one).
Or ‘Get over your son’s autism situation.’ (Ok, perhaps zdoggMD says this.)
Or ‘Get over laughing at the comedian who is performing jokes about drone attacks on Muslims. (That might be something to get over)
Or ‘Get over not receiving your retirement, social security, bonus, or what you already paid into’. (Hope that won’t become a trend!)

And then there is a similar one that I hear others say to themselves. When this happens, I’m listening with all ears, and thinking, “I know this couldn’t be true.’

“I’m over it (Or I’m over this)!”
To me, this statement has been adapted to something it isn’t. To be over something, means it’s completed, that the experience or action has occurred. It’s the past tense. But these days, it’s a way to vent frustration with no or little preparation for the actions needed to make it past tense.

“I’m over being taken advantage of.” (When you can hear they haven’t a clue how to say ‘no’ to the other without feeling guilty.)
“I’m over the way s/he continually leaves me for another.”  (When being treated differently would require self respect, which isn’t being worked on.)
“I’m over hardly making it month to month.” (When there are beliefs or memories about not deserving financial abundance which haven’t been cleared nor action taken to change things.)
“I’m over this politician.” (When the person’s eyes are red with fire in seething about the person.)

These are not in the past. These are being experienced and felt in the present.

Our words, our phrases, our experiences all have meaning. They also matter and count. They have frequency. They are vibrations.

When we want to be understood, adding negation or sarcasm makes it difficult for another to have clarity or be present to what is being related. It’s the same when we do it to ourselves. It keeps us in denial and creates disconnection within.

When we learn to use our language in ways that support empathy, care, presence, openness, curiosity, wonder, and understanding, we are entering a state of connection.

So as the world is going through its many changes, and people feel a growing sense of disconnection, remember that telling them to ‘get over it’, won’t help another’s situation; nor will telling another that ‘I’m over it’, help the other to understand your experience, in what is really going on in not being ‘over it’.

If clarity, honesty, and emotional vulnerability is to happen, we need to discover what our current feelings are in the present and admit what is true to ourselves. Then trust building with another can occur.

Changing our words and expression can change our frequency in so many ways. And being about to relate and connect with others is vital in human interaction.

With care,
Judy

I extracted possible ‘theme’ beliefs from the story. Energy test yourself for them, practice clearing them through digging if applicable, and use Creator’s teachings, including the ones below, if they fit.
Beliefs:

• I attempt to use phrases that minimize what I really want to say.
• I use phrases to minimize what others say when they seem stuck, or different than how I would do things.
• I have emotional expectations of how others need to move through situations in their life.
• I trust myself to say what I mean clearly.
• What I say has little meaning in how I express it to others.
• Changing my expression of myself and others, changes my frequency.
  
  

Helpful Creator’s teachings/downloads

I know what it feels like to, how to, when to, that it’s possible, that I can, I do (or I am/am able to be):

• To say what I mean and mean what I say
• To know when I’m really over it
• To be able to hear another without having expectations in when they need to be over in their situation
• To let go of my expectations of how others need to move through situations in their life
• To trust myself to use my words wisely in what is true for me
• To use my words wisely in what is true for me
• To use clarity and honesty to relate and connect with others
• To use emotional vulnerability where the foundation for trust building skills has occurred
• To appreciate the meaning and significance of how I express myself to others
• To grow in frequency change by the ways I express myself inward and in the world