Our gift to you
What happens when kids who survive emotional, physical or sexual trauma don't get healing after it happens?
And what if it occurs more than once, even repeatedly over a period of time?
Or what if babies and children are unable to develop proper attachment to their mother?
One of the well known and painful consequences of unresolved childhood trauma is isolation.
We, or part of us, will likely feel left behind and abandoned.
Yet, one of the key elements to healing is connection.
That is why we created a template for ThetaHealers® that teaches you:
- how to create your own sustainable support circle
- how to customize it according to the group’s needs
- how to define what parameters and boundaries you need
All group members get to feel seen, heard, witnessed, without trying to fix each other.
This is a way to experience safe connection in a very simple and easy structure.
We call this The Moving Beyond Support Circles™ for ThetaHealers.
You can sign up for them here.
(The only requirement is that you have taken the ThetaHealing® Basic (or any other) Class in the last five years. )
Let me tell you about how meaningful these Circles may be to you.
Being witnessed by safe others who also have awareness of the non-duality or wholeness conciousness of the ThetaHealing Technique, can boost your healing journey.
Some benefits are:
- it will get you unstuck
- it will be easier to manifest
- you learn to be more and more comfortable with yourself and your experience of yourself in real connection with others - remember that we are all consciousness in a physical body!
When connection creates 'separation'
Okay, here's some more context.
When there is unresolved childhood trauma, part of us may feel separated:
- from the world
- from ourself, our core, our body
- from the Life Energy of Creation (God, All-that-is, etc.)
Our little children’s brains learn to associate connection to others with pain, danger, and suffering.
The result is that we want nothing to do with connection…
We don't learn well to discern or to maintain safe and trustworthy interactions.
Our stories are why we're here
I was eight. My baby sister was only a few months old.
One night, I was left alone with the baby.
An eight year old does not have the skills to take care of herself, let alone of a needy baby.
It happened many times and went on for years.
My mother was a nurse who worked nights, and my stepfather was supposed to look after us. - He never did.
Nobody knew at the time, but later I discovered that he was a drugdealer who would run his business at night.
I remember the deep anxiety I felt every day when evening fell.
The panic of not having any adults around was overwhelming.
I remember the powerlessness, the guilt I felt when the baby wouldn’t stop crying.
Each night seemed to last forever. The suffering and abandonment appeared endless.
Those lonely nights taught me that I was lost without proper connection (the adults) but also better off without any connection at all (the baby was too much for me).
Connection, to my eight year old self, meant:
- being responsible for others' needs
- being abandoned
No matter what I did.
How 'separation' becomes coping mechanism
If we cannot process trauma that doesn’t kill us, we survive it.
We may or may not appear to be functional in the world:
- we develop illness, addictions
- we have difficulty taking care of ourself or navigating life
- we struggle to develop our potential
- we have continuous drama or (financial) stress
- our relationships are unfulfilling, unstable
Do you know what we all have in common?
The coping mechanisms that helped us survive the trauma, become our way of life.
Those structures remain our method of operating well after the threat is gone .
The lessons of 'separation'
I was told to never tell anyone about the nights alone.
In the mornings I would be sent to school, completely overwhelmed and exhausted.
It was difficult to concentrate, teachers found me disruptive, and punished me by putting me in isolation.
This taught me to better hide my feelings and keep others at a safe distance.
How I experienced connection at home, was reinforced in school: isolating.
I told no one, and carried these secrets well into adulthood.
My sense of connection had become: disconnection.
Connection or separation?
I didn't know the difference.
Both caused suffering.
The applications of 'separation'
By the time I became an adult, I was used to feeling stressed all the time.
I became good at managing difficult situations at work.
My employer rewarded this with promotion after promotion.
I learned that the harder the circumstances, the more my value increased.
Self-worth became associated with pushing my boundaries and physical pain.
I lived from crisis to crisis, at work as well as in my personal life.
I did not know any other way.
My sense of connection became all about surviving the complex and the unreasonable.
Coming out of survival mode
When the patterns of separation become a way of life, we are in continuous survival mode.
Flight, flight or freeze, 24/7.
This is a sure way to overwhelm and fry our nervous system.
This is how stress may create illness in the body.
Coming out of a life long survival mode is rarely a happening and for most a process.
It's a journey.
And it's so much sweeter and gentler together.
There's an African proverb that says:
"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."
Healing will require going alone sometimes (always with God) as well as going together.
If this is a time that you need support, please join us.
In a short webinar, we teach you how to create your own Moving Beyond Trauma Support Circle.
After that, you will be invited to our private Facebook group where we help you form your group.
It's really a unique, supportive and fun concept!
When shifts started to happen
When I started to show up for my group members, and they for me, something shifted.
I felt as if I could really count on these ladies.
We all counted on each other.
To show up. To share. Or to be silent.
To listen deeply.
To be real. Compassionate.
Kind. Open. Caring. Present.
To not try to fix, not rescue, not advise, not criticize.
To not take responsibility for each other's processes.
To witness. To welcome. To accept.
To love. To respect ourself and each other.
The non-duality consciousness made all the difference for me.
To work on my beliefs as I unraveled the patterns of my childhood had been pivotal.
And to be witnessed, and to just 'be' with others, gave me the breakthroughs I had been longing for.
Even the babysteps sometimes, mattered greatly.
The opposite of survival mode is authenticity
What does it look like when you live life from your authentic self?
First, our sense of connection becomes a solid somatic, emotional and spiritual experience.
We have discernment between our feelings and who we are.
We build inner resilience and grow a strong sense of emotional regulation.
This allows us to more easily work on our beliefs and develop our psychic senses.
When we feel and see the changes in our lives, it's easier to accomplish our Soul Purpose.
And isn't that what this whole existence is about?
P.S. If you resonate with this, then we would love to have you in our Moving Beyond Support Circles™. Join us, accept our gift to you in these transformational times. Part of the experience is to come to our Facebook group where we will help you form or find your own group.